It’s an interesting perspective and while I agree on the pain, I don’t think I would ultimately want to live with a liar. I have a right to know and choose whether I want to work on it, stay or leave.
I had read your other article that you posted at the bottom a while ago and I thought it was spot on. The sadness and anger sometimes makes us focus on the wrong person and the wrong reasons because we don’t want to face the truth.
Honesty and truth are, among other things, what you signed up for with the vows.
I enjoyed reading this thought provoking article though.